Don't Choose to Make an Excuse

The word excuse…What does this even mean? It’s actually pretty hard to define it and the online definitions are just not on the right track at all. Maybe it’s closer to the word failure?

So this is a brief intro into a very complicated topic that could be debated and expanded upon for weeks or even months. But what am I writing about it now? Because I’ve felt been making excuses for myself during the last few months and it feels like shit. And not only that but I’ve had people making excuses for me! There couldn’t be anything worse…

What’s going on when we make excuses for ourselves? I think it’s that we are failing to live up to our own conscious or unconscious expectations...but let’s focus on the conscious expectations because this is where the change can happen. Once it’s understood that we’re creating an excuse to make ourselves feel better, then begins flows the guilty feeling. And once we’re feeling guilty, hopefully, this sparks the feeling of motivation to do better. This is called growth!

But what about when others make up excuses for us? This is where it gets even more complicated. This person is clearly failing to keep someone else accountable which is counterproductive. In productive and healthy environments people should challenge each other's limits instead of folding to the sub-standard. The worst part is though is the argument that may come after if we have already understood that someone else is making an excuse for us. This is where it turns to a justifying argument about ones own standards. Jesus what a shit show...

Excuses are just a load of bullshit we feed ourselves or others may feed us when hungry for the “it’s ok” justification feeling. They’re no help to ultimate accountability and becoming comfortable with making them is the most dangerous thing for personal development.