Ripple Addiction

Our world has a serious problem that's developed. It's something that's ripping apart families, destroying individuals, and affecting people far beyond the addicts themselves. What we have to drill through people's skulls is, how serious it can be. This is a disease not a fad.

Addicts are in a vicious cycle. Their judgment is continuously clouded, their emotions are on a roller coaster, and they are crippled by whatever vice has hooked them. Being in that place begins to make a person feel lonely, untrusting, and overall hopeless. All these emotions just feed the vice and press the hooks deeper. Imagine this cycle for years...decades...or even a lifetime. Unless you've been there, it's hard to imagine how low (but of course high at times) you can feel.

Undoubtedly, victims are in a far worse situation than anyone could imagine looking in from the outside. Don't forget this point because as much as it might suck for a family or group of friends to watch their loved one go through, it's far worse for the person being ripped apart inside the cycle.
Although this starts with the victim, 100% others will be affected. The emotional, financial, and physical trauma a family feels having to deal with all this is not healthy or enjoyable. This stems from the ups, downs, and sideways of that roller coaster. They are unable to function fully as a family unit because there is a broken chain that continues to stall the machine. There is constantly feelings of worry or uncertainty. The unnecessary stress that spills over into everyone life is constantly placing unnecessary strain.

The hardest part for anyone having to watch the victim go through the process is having that urge to help but not being able to do shit. The problem is, unless the person has decided enough is enough, any advice or help you try to give is like talking to a brick wall. The victim is so entrenched in their disease that any words of wisdom or even direct intervening will go all but unnoticed. Sometimes this can even have a worse counter effect. That is a terrible feeling. You want to help someone so bad but whatever you try to do feels like it is completely ignored. What really needs to be done is to support their process. Wherever they are, meet them. Whatever they need, give them. Sometimes that can be space and sometimes that can be getting involved. But try not to push the buttons. They are in a very dark and sensitive place.

Next time you see a friend, loved one, or just acquaintance that's been sucked in to the downward spiral of addiction, pay attention. Observe where they are and try to be there in whatever way they’re ready for. Don't take rejection personally and really try your best not to obsess over how they are "affecting" you. It's unfair to make the situation about yourself. They are the ones that are sick. So "treat" them that way.